Women from the Philippines

10 Dec

1) Woman with stress-related illness seeks natural abortion

I am 31 years old and I got a son already. A year after I got married, my husband had an affair to another woman and left us in favor of his girl. I had no idea where he went and with whom. But later, people and even the family of his girl confirmed to me that they were having an affair and even have kids too. I am the legal wife but he deprived me and my son of our rights. I became battered for so long and my son got trauma at a very young age of 2. When he left us for years, somebody came into my life. And he got me pregnant now. I was happy yet  since we are not yet legally separated, we decided to have abortion naturally. We are very interested. We are really in need. Im having financial constraint since I dont have a job. I have an illness which is stress related and that hinders me from being hired. My xhusband never had the heart to sustain our needs since he left us.

  • Age: 31
  • Asian Indian
  • Christian
  • Separated
  • 1
  • Yes it was consensual
  • He is my boyfriend
  • Yes, he supports my decision
  • No
  • Birth Control Pill, Patch or Ring
  • Yes
    • Imprisonment (because abortion is illegal where I live)
    • Disowned by family if they found out (forced to leave home or not allowed to return)
    • Beating from my father, brother or other family member if they found out
  • It is too expensive for me at this time. The facilities are too far away for me to get to. I would rather not have a medical or surgical abortion.

2) Filipina in United Arab Emirates seeks natural abortion

I am 6 weeks pregnant...asking for help cause it's not allowed to get pregnant if Ur not married in uae

  • Age: 28
  • Single (never married)
  • Yes it was consensual
  • He is my fiancé
  • No, he does not support my decision
  • No
  • I hoped I would not get pregnant
  • No
  • Imprisonment (because abortion is illegal where I live)
  • It is not legal in uae

 3) Student seeking natural abortion

I am a 21-year-old Filipina belonging to a lower middle class family. I am the third out of four children. My mom herself got pregnant with my eldest brother accidentally when she was 20 and my dad was 21. They were still in college. Mom was supposed to go to med school but that didn't work out. Dad had to quit college and get a minimum wage job. I'm also in college and about to graduate. My boyfriend is also still in college. I love my parents. They're the best parents ever. They are not strict parents and I feel like I am a disappoint me to them because they have never made me feel like I cannot open up to them. They share everything to us and we have a close relationship. However, sex is a different issue. It's a bit awkward and sensitive to talk about. They do know that I am in a very loving relationship and my boyfriend cares for me and my family very much. 
Our country is fairly new to Reproductive Health Laws since it is a predominantly Catholic country and the Church is against contraception and abortion no matter what the conditions are (e.g. Rape, poverty). Nevertheless, I tried to be very responsible when it came to sex. I was educated in Catholic school all my life but I have stuck to my own principles as I grew up. I made sure I was ready for it the first time I did it. I made sure the timing was right and that my period had just ended. Me and my boyfriend have always stuck to the rhythm/calendar method simply because we tried condoms and it felt uncomfortable and expensive. I also don't know where to get contraceptive pills and check ups are expensive in our country. As a student i have a limited allowance which i mostly spend on food and school stuff. 
For a little over a year, the rhythm method worked for us. Although, these past few weeks my periods have been 3 to 4 days late. I make sure that I count the safe and unsafe days. I thought we were on the safe side because I counted right, but now it's been 6 days and just this morning I took a home pregnancy test that came out positive. 
I am a public university student and I still rely very much on my parents for financial support. I do not want to be a disappointment to both our parents being this young and without jobs yet. I cannot provide for this baby. I cannot raise this baby. I cannot afford to be pregnant. Although I want to want this baby, I surely don't and I am starting to hate myself for it. Please help me because we are really desperate.
  • Age: 21
  • Mixed Race
  • In a Monogamous Relationship
  • Yes it was consensual
  • He is my boyfriend
  • Yes, he supports my decision
  • No
  • Natural Birth Control (Rhythm Method, Temperature, Calendar.)
  • Yes
  • Imprisonment (because abortion is illegal where I live)
    • It is too expensive for me at this time
    • I may consider it but I would like to try natural methods first